What is the Surprising Key to Manifesting What You Desire?

The real key to manifesting isn’t more vision boards or working harder. Manifesting is being radically honest about what you truly want… and refusing to shrink your desires to make them “practical” or “acceptable.”

In this episode, we’re talking about why so many of us water down our dreams, how to spot when you’re playing small, and the exact steps to hold the full, unapologetic version of your desire without fear or compromise.

You’ll learn:

• Why honesty is the most powerful manifesting tool you have
  
  
• How shrinking your desires creates an energetic mismatch
  
  
• The sneaky ways fear disguises itself as “practicality”
  
  
• Practical manifestation tips to claim your biggest, boldest vision
  
  
• How clarity speeds up your manifestations in love, money, business, and life
  
  

Your desires aren’t random; they’re your next evolution calling you forward.

Check out the video series on the difference between Goal-Setting, Wishful Thinking, and Manifesting.

Want to get your desires out of your head and start living them in real life? Then grab your ticket to the Harvest Your Desires Guided Experience happening in September. Click here for all the details (don’t wait, there are limited spots available).

Chapters

• 0:00 Welcome and Introduction
• 0:17 You Cannot Manifest What You Won't Admit
• 1:52 Honesty in Manifesting Goes Deeper
• 4:11 Your Desires Are Your Soul's Compass
• 6:35 How to Stop Shrinking Your Desires
• 12:29 Clarity is Magnetic: This Week's Challenge

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

Hey, my loves and welcome back. I am so glad you're here with me, If you are new. I am Shannon, and this space is all about manifesting from the inside out. We do not force, we do not pretend and we do not skip the deep stuff. We just have real conversations to help you live the life your soul already knows is yours. And that brings me right into our topic for this week, which is you cannot manifest what you're not willing to admit you want. I'm going to say that again because it's the heart of this whole conversation. You cannot manifest what you're not willing to admit you want.

Speaker 1: 0:35

And yet this is where so many women get tripped up, because we edit, we filter, we shrink, we take the full, vibrant, soul-stirring vision that we have inside of us and we chip it away until it feels reasonable, until it makes no one else feel uncomfortable, until it won't require us to face our own fears of being seen as too much or too greedy or too unrealistic. We think that we're still dreaming big, but if we were really honest, we would admit that we are still making those dreams small enough to be palpable to the people around us and safe enough that we don't risk disappointment. We call it being practical and being responsible, but underneath it is fear. And manifestation is not about putting in an order to some external source and hoping that it approves. It is about aligning so fully with the truth of what you want that your life, your entire lived reality has no choice but to rearrange around that truth. And that process always begins with radical honesty. So I want you to grab your favorite drink, cozy up and let's have a real conversation about what it means to tell the truth in manifesting and why it changes everything.

Speaker 1: 1:53

Honesty in manifesting goes way deeper than just saying I want a new car or I want more money. It's about getting so raw and real with yourself that you fully admit the unedited version of your desire. Most of us skip this part. We tell ourselves I want a new job. When the truth is, I want a role that makes me excited to wake up every day, pays me more than I've ever made and values my creativity. We say I want a new relationship. When the truth is. You want a passionate, deeply connected partnership that makes you feel seen, loved and fully alive. We water down our truth because it feels safer to aim for something that's closer to our current reality. If we don't stretch too far, we think we'll protect ourselves from disappointment, we'll protect ourselves from the judgment of others, we'll protect ourselves from being told all the reasons why we shouldn't want what we want. But when you shrink your desire to fit with what feels possible right now, you're not actually manifesting, you're just setting a goal that your current self can handle.

Speaker 1: 2:57

I did a whole series about the difference between manifesting, goal setting and wishful thinking. I'll link them in the show notes so you can really get into what each of those means. But manifesting isn't about keeping you current and comfortable. It's about calling in the version of you who already has what you desire. And when we say what you desire, what I am saying? When I say what you desire, I mean what you truly, really, unfiltered, desire.

Speaker 1: 3:24

When you shrink your desires, you may think that you're avoiding discomfort. You may think you're avoiding losing certain things in your life, but what you're really doing is avoiding the life you were meant to live, because your desires are not random, they are not selfish, they are directional, they are your soul's compass, pointing you to your next level of expansion, your next level of experience in this life. When you say oh, no, no, no, that's too much for me. You're not rejecting the thing, you're rejecting the version of you. Who would have that thing? And what happens when you do that is that your energy adjusts to match the smaller vision. Your ideas, the opportunities and the choices all start aligning with the version of life that you think you can have, and not the bigger vision that's on that next timeline. It's not that life is withholding from you. It's that you've stopped holding the bigger vision long enough for it to take root.

Speaker 1: 4:22

Shrinking is sneaky because it disguises itself as being realistic or mature or responsible or practical. Here's how you can spot if you're shrinking it down. If you're negotiating out of what you truly desire, your dreams, feel comfortable instead of electric. You can imagine getting it without much effort or change. You've trimmed away parts of it to make it easier to explain to other people. You've convinced yourself that asking for more would be greedy, unrealistic or unnecessary. If there were zero consequences, zero judgment and zero limits, what would you admit to wanting? See if you see yourself doing any of those things that I just laid out for you, I need you to immediately become aware and then ask yourself if there were zero consequences, zero judgment and zero limits? What would you admit to wanting? Because that question alone can unearth the truth that you've been burying under practicality. I really want us to think about that Are you being practical or are you manifesting? Are you being practical or are you manifesting?

Speaker 1: 5:33

Sometimes, these blocks that we feel aren't necessarily limiting beliefs, but a lot of times they're internal conflict, because there is a part of you, and a big part of you, that has this big desire. That's your compass. It's saying this is where you're meant to go, this is what you're meant to have, truly and fully. Because, you guys, the desire is already there, like. Once the desire hits, it is there for you to have, it's ready to be harvested. Once the desire is there, it is already ready for you to harvest. When you get the desire, it's not like oh, the universe planted a seed. No, the desire, when it comes up, is yourself, revealing the inner part of you, revealing there is something out there, available to you already, that will make your life feel good, that you are meant to experience. So step into it. You don't have to nurture it, you don't have to grow the seed, like. No, it's already available, completely available, and your job is to go harvest it to step into that timeline.

Speaker 1: 6:47

Shannon, why do you say harvest? Because I'm having a harvest your desires guided experience that's going to take your desires out of your head and into living them in your real life. And we're harvesting them because they're already available. I'm going to link the information for that event in the show notes. It's in the DFW area. There are limited spots that are already filling up, so make sure you grab yours, because we are going to truly be real with what we desire.

Speaker 1: 7:12

Learn how to regulate our nervous system around that desire so we can step into that desire, so, once again, they stop living in our head and it becomes our life. But it can't become your life if you're not willing to admit that you want it to be your life and that internal struggle is part of you, the program, part of being practical and realistic and responsible, because, let's just face it, that's how women are programmed to be. Oh, be the responsible ones and the practical ones and the ones that take care of everything. And if you go after that big beautiful desire, oh my gosh, what happens to all the other people? It's truly around the other people, right, and not yourself Going to another timeline and stepping into that big, beautiful desire has zero to do with hurting other people.

Speaker 1: 7:52

You know you, that's not your desire. Your desire has zero to do with hurting other people. You know you, that's not your desire. Your desire is not to harm others, but are you carrying some undue, made-up version, systematic way to keep you small program that keeps you from your big desire? Because it told you that if you step into your fullness, you're going to leave others behind or you're going to have to neglect those that you love? And these are the things, as women, that make us shrink our desires down and to make them smaller and to stay out of them. Because what about all of the other people? What about you? Oh no, so selfish to think about yourself. There comes another program. It is not selfish, because if you are living in the fullness of you, you are the best you for everyone around you. It is not selfish.

Speaker 1: 8:46

That word has been used as a weapon against women to keep them small. That if you do anything that lights you up, that falls into what you know you are supposed to tap into, that you are being selfish. You are not. That word was weaponized against you to keep you out of your desires. Let's stop that here. Let's stop that today.

Speaker 1: 9:11

And there are ways you can stop shrinking your desires. Let's make it really tangible. First thing you can do is say it out loud, even if it feels ridiculous. Especially if it feels ridiculous, saying it brings it into the 3D and it forces you to own it. Own your desires unapologetically as they are, without negotiating and watering them down. The second thing is to stop explaining yourself, because you don't need a PowerPoint presentation on why you want something. Because I want it is a complete sentence. Number three is to let it be big without rushing it, because it doesn't have to happen tomorrow.

Speaker 1: 9:49

Part of manifesting is holding the vision steadily without collapsing it in because of timeline uncertainty. And once again, we're going to be doing this in the Harvest. Your Desires event is that we are going to step into that possibility using our nervous system. And when you do that and you're embodying it, there's not like stress of a timeline because you know it's already there. You know you're just aligning to it and how to align to it without shutting down. But when we start putting timelines on things, then we start watering them down so that we can turn them into goal setting, so that we can accomplish it, but we're not really manifesting it because we're just then staying on our current timeline. The fourth thing is catch the but. Staying on our current timeline. The fourth thing is catch the but Anytime you say I want blank, but stop, that is the moment you're negotiating with yourself. Replace it with I want blank and it's possible For myself.

Speaker 1: 10:47

Me and my husband rent a house because we rent in the school district that we wanted our kids to go to and we knew we didn't want to be here forever, just till they got through school. They're all through school now. Like we have some ideas on what we want, but now that our kids are grown, like we don't have to factor in the school system to be a part of it. And we knew we weren't always going to stay where we are. Like literally the only reason we live where we live was because of the school. We knew this wasn't going to be our forever zip code, if that makes sense. So, as I was going and looking at and thinking about, okay, cool, all of our kids are now fully grown and me and my husband can start looking for our forever home or what we think will be our forever home, because you know I don't want to put myself on some kind of box, but our next place of living and what kind of things that we want.

Speaker 1: 11:32

I started to negotiate or catch myself saying, but because there are certain things that I want. Then I told myself, well, why would you want that in your house if your kids are all grown Like? Your kids are all grown up, like you don't need that big of a house, like you don't need those rooms, why are you even thinking about that? When you're going through the list of what you want in your home, you see how I myself was whittling it down. So then I had caught myself because I know this is a thing you just got to catch yourself. Like I'm not telling you to go out here and be perfect, like I still have to catch myself, that's fine, but catch yourself myself, that's fine, but catch yourself.

Speaker 1: 12:07

I started to negotiate what was responsible and practical. Like why would I need five bedrooms if nobody lives at home? Nobody's ever going to sleep in them. That's not practical, that's stupid, that's dumb. But I have other ideas for these rooms besides people sleeping in them. That wasn't why I wanted the rooms there in the first place. Guest rooms would be nice, but that wasn't going to be their only purpose, if that makes sense when I first had this idea of what I want. But I started to negotiate and I had to catch myself and I just replaced it with this because I want it Once again, because I want it is a complete sentence, because that's what I want my house to have. Period. So catching the but Catching when you start negotiating with yourself.

Speaker 1: 12:50

So let's just review these real quick.

Speaker 1: 12:52

Number one say it out loud.

Speaker 1: 12:53

Number two stop explaining yourself. Number three let it be big without rushing it. And number four catch the butt, because when you stop shrinking, your energy becomes crystal clear. You're no longer this split signal inside of you where one part of you is trying to make everything small and the other part of you is trying to go where you know you're meant to go. Clarity is magnetic and when you know exactly what you want, you start noticing the ideas, the opportunities and the people that match that frequency.

Speaker 1: 13:19

The bigger, truer version of your desire starts to feel normal to you and that is when your world begins to reorganize to match it.

Speaker 1: 13:28

And this is why big, soul aligned desires are often manifested faster than the safe ones, because the safe ones don't require you to shift who you are. The big ones are what are pulling you into your new identity, and that is where the magic of manifesting happens. So this week, just pick one desire that you have been shrinking in money or love, home, health or lifestyle and I want you to write it down with the full, unapologetic version of what it is no edits and no compromises, no buts and I want you to look at it every day this week, not trying to figure out how it's going to happen, but to keep you anchored in the truth of your desires, because manifesting is not about asking politely for a small piece of what you want. It is about claiming the whole thing and trusting yourself enough to hold it. So focus on that this week. Focus on being unapologetically honest about what you want, and I will chat with you next week.