How to Feel Safe Being a Risk Taker to Manifest Your Desires

Ever wonder why it feels safer to stay small, even when your soul is craving more? In this powerful episode, we delve into what it truly means to be a risk-taker in manifestation, and why your nervous system plays a major role in quantum leaping. You’ll learn my signature possibility over wishful thinking method to expand your desires without triggering fear, shutdown, or self-sabotage.

Inside this episode:

• Why bold desires often trigger survival responses
  
  
• How to stop shrinking and start stretching safely
  
  
• The difference between wishful thinking and true energetic possibility
  
  
• Nervous system tools to support your next aligned risk
  
  
• How to build capacity for love, wealth, and visibility
  
  
  

Ready to expand without overwhelm? Join me at the Harvest Your Desires Gathering...your portal to manifesting from a grounded power and nervous system safety.
 

Chapters

• 0:00 Manifesting Without Shocking Your System
• 3:00 Nervous System's Role in Manifestation
• 8:00 My Parking Spot Manifestation Journey
• 13:30 Possibility Over Wishful Thinking
• 19:00 Building Capacity Through Micro Risks
• 21:10 Harvesting Your Desires Gathering

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

Let's jump right into manifesting magic this week, because here's the thing that nobody tells you when you decide to become a risk body has been taught that it is safer to stay small, to stay in the familiar, to stay exactly where you are, even if where you are doesn't feel good, and that is the reason that most people do not manifest what they say they want. This episode truly is a love letter to the part of you that knows you're meant for more, but you're too scared to stretch into it. We're really going to talk about stretching this week so those manifestations can land, because we're getting into nervous system regulation, grounded energetic expansion. And my favorite tool for safe, sustainable manifestation is what I call possibility over wishful thinking, because you do not need to shock your system into alignment, and I think that's a lot of times where we kind of make a wrong turn with manifestation. You get to manifest from a place of safety, from clarity and embodied trust. I want you to grab your favorite drink, cozy up and let's get started.

Speaker 1: 1:26

A lot of times we think being a risk taker means being reckless, being ungrounded, just letting it all go and going into like super delusion land. But that's not it. It's not about bypassing your fears or pretending you're fearless. It's about being someone who feels safe enough to move forward despite fear, someone who can hold the sensation of uncertainty without collapsing under it. And that's embodied courage. And that does not come from willpower. And I know a lot of times when we are talking about manifestation we think, oh, it's willpower. Really, we're given some surface level, to me very harmful advice that it is about the willpower of your thoughts and just thinking the right things and always staying in this good thought place and just willing yourself there. That's really not where embodied courage comes from to go to someplace that's unfamiliar that you want to be. It comes from nervous system regulation Because, you know, a lot of times in this manifestation world you're taught quantum leaps without honoring your quantum body. You are told to affirm millionaire status when you're still struggling to pay rent. You're encouraged to script your dream partner when your heart is still healing from betrayal. And that is not expansion, that is dysregulation, because the body isn't concerned with whether a desire is aligned or high by. It is concerned with whether it is safe.

Speaker 1: 3:00

And a lot of times we feel like we're at war with ourself. Well, this is why we're at war with ourself, because our nervous system doesn't know the difference between finding a snake in the garden. Right, go in the garden. There's a rattlesnake there oh my gosh, so scary. And the nervous system can't distinguish between that true threat and the idea of maybe launching a new offer, or leaving a toxic relationship, or asking for a raise To your body. All of those are a potential threat. So instead of leaping, you freeze, you shrink, you stay small, because small feels safe.

Speaker 1: 3:36

So when you start affirming things that are totally out of reach, things that feel light years away from your current identity or lived experience, your nervous system perceives that leap as a threat. It looks at it the same way. If you live in Texas, like me, and you go out in your garden and you find a rattlesnake, like it looks at your desires in the same way if they're so far beyond your current 3D, not because the desire is wrong, not because you shouldn't have it. The desire is the indication that it is yours, but it's really because there's a gap between where you are and where you're trying to go that is too wide or too sudden or too unanchored. That's why so many people unknowingly sabotage their manifestations right before they land or before they even get started. That's why you feel like you're always chasing big goals, but there's this constant anxiety and feeling stuck and self-doubt and big resistance. Not like resistance you don't know is there, but this like huge resistance you can feel tugging at you. And it's not because you're not spiritual huge resistance you can feel tugging at you. And it's not because you're not spiritual enough or woo enough or good enough at manifestation. It is because your body never felt safe going there in the first place. We have to bring the two together.

Speaker 1: 4:57

It feels safer to stay small because your subconscious mind, your nervous system are wired around familiarity and what is familiar is just predictable. It's what's predictable to feel safe enough to survive, even if you don't like it, even if it can be painful, even if it doesn't feel good, it is familiar. At least you know how to navigate it in some way, shape or form. You know the patterns around it. So if you spent years shrinking yourself to stay safe, or avoiding judgment or downplaying your desires so you don't disappoint, then playing small isn't just a mindset, it's a strategy for survival. Survival your body literally equates expansion with exposure and exposure with danger. So when we talk about stepping into abundance, visibility, intimacy or deep joy. Those can feel threatening, even if you consciously want them.

Speaker 1: 5:59

Staying small doesn't mean playing safe in your career or relationships. It means energetically shrinking to avoid feeling sensations that you haven't yet learned to hold. It means avoiding the discomfort of being seen, avoiding the spaciousness that comes with freedom, avoiding the vulnerability of letting yourself hold. Because staying small looks realistic. It can look like taking things slow, it can look like not getting your hopes up. I know somebody and she always says I never get my hopes up because every time I do everything goes wrong. There's a mindset and a deregulation there. So staying small lets her avoid those feelings or sensations of the what, if right. But beneath those patterns is dysregulation that simply doesn't feel safe.

Speaker 1: 6:49

So let's talk about the nervous system's role in manifestation. There are three main states your nervous system can operate from. It can be regulated. It can be hyper aroused, which is fight or flight, and it can be hypo aroused, which is freeze or shut down. So when you're in a regulated state, your body feels grounded, it feels present, it feels open to receive, your energy is available for expansion. Your system is completely online. But when you're in dysregulation, when you're in fight, flight or freeze. Your energy contracts, your focus narrows, your body diverts energy to survival instead of creation, so manifestation becomes nearly impossible because your system is closed to possibility. Manifestation is creating your reality. So if you're in survival, you are not in creation. It is not your mindset holding you back sometimes which it can be. We have to change our mindsets and when we work with manifestation, we're working with our mindset. Right, we're working with said mind, but it can also be our biology, and that's why nervous system work isn't just supportive but it is actually essential for sustainable manifestation. It's about what allows you to stretch without snapping, to hold the energy of the desire without feeling the need to escape it, to show up as a risk taker, not just with bold action, but with grounded nervous system capacity to be able to receive what is coming next.

Speaker 1: 8:23

I always talk about this because it was such a turning point for me, because I had to go on a receiving journey. Receiving dysregulated me, getting things dysregulated me, and I really wanted more money and a more abundant life. And I realized one day, like awareness comes, like your deregulation states will show up to you. I went to the grocery store and there was this parking spot and I just sat there and stared at it. Like, well, I see another car coming and that car may have kids or maybe somebody who's more in a hurry. Like maybe they need that spot more. Like I had this dysregulation that everybody else deserves first and more than I do, and so I had to, so I let them park there. And I parked way in the back and I was sitting here thinking to myself I want to receive more and I can't even receive a parking spot. Like the parking spot was there for me and I honed in on just receiving small things.

Speaker 1: 9:28

Because then I went back and looked at patterns in my life where I would get gift cards from people, but then I would think, oh, you know what, I'm going to re-gift this to somebody else because they probably need it more than I do. You know, they may want me to go and get something from whatever store I had gotten the gift card from. Or, oh my gosh, I got a gift card for a massage and I just never used it. And I was thinking to myself, well, I'm going to hold on to it because I bet you there's somebody who could use this more than me. Like that was my thought pattern. Somebody else is always more worthy, more deserving or needs it more than me. So I can't receive it, I can't use it, I'll just hold on to it until I can give it away.

Speaker 1: 10:06

And so I had to start with parking spots and I had to tell myself I deserve a parking spot and I decided I was going to make this very specific because I'm an efficient person too. And I decided I was going to make this very specific because I'm an efficient person too. I'm not going to sit there and wait for you to back out of a parking spot when I could have just parked and already walked into the store before you even pull out. Like to me, that's a waste of time. So my parameters were within the first three spaces of the grocery store is an open spot that I don't have to wait for. It doesn't matter what time of day, it doesn't matter if it's a busy place, it doesn't matter if I'm driving or if I'm the passenger with somebody else in their car. The spot is always available to me. And I started to manifest that. And that's still a thing Every time I go to the grocery store. It's still a thing.

Speaker 1: 10:46

I went to Ikea one Saturday with my daughter in her car to pick up something because she had a bigger car. And I don't know if y'all ever been to an Ikea on a Saturday at noon. But you're not getting parking unless you're with me, and I don't say that to be braggy. I'm saying that to say you can manifest, rehold and receive, because we got front row parking at an Ikea on a Saturday at noon that we didn't have to wait for. It was just there for us, available for us, and so I had to start there. I could regulate that more and then I was able to receive more. So it was a very grounded activity.

Speaker 1: 11:30

And that's when I talk about possibility over wishful thinking, because wishful thinking skips over your body's truth and it goes it's like a jump scare, right From scarcity to abundance, from single to soulmates, from stuck to six figures, if you don't acknowledge your nervous systems need to feel safe every step of the way. Possibility thinking honors the stretch because it says I may not believe I'm a millionaire yet, but I can believe I'm capable of earning five figures a month. Or I may not believe in a soulmate yet, but I can believe I'm ready to be seen and loved in a different way. So for me, it was a stretch to believe that I could have an upfront parking space. That was a stretch for me.

Speaker 1: 12:18

And I picked something I had no control over, right, and sometimes when we pick money we feel like we have control over that and then we end up just hustling and to me that's not really manifesting abundance if you have to burn yourself out for it. I chose to receive something really. I truly absolutely had no control over To teach myself not only to receive something really, I truly absolutely had no control over To teach myself not only to receive, but it was also teaching myself that I could let go of the how, because I don't know how it happened, it just happened. So it taught me two things at once. And this approach is not about playing small. I wasn't playing small, I was building capacity. This approach shows your nervous system that expansion doesn't have to mean collapse.

Speaker 1: 13:02

And a lot of times when we're in desperate situations where we feel like we have to manifest right now, I always say you can't manifest from a place of desperation anyway, but you don't leave room to build capacity and, honestly, in that moment in time when I was doing that, I needed some wealth right now. There's a whole nother story behind that, but I needed it right now and I just, for the first time in my life, just stopped trying to fix things and just said I'm going to have to just learn how to receive small things. I couldn't even receive a parking spot or a $20 gift card. How was I going to get the five figures a month that I truly wanted without my nervous system freaking out? See, when you root your desires in possibility and not fantasy, you give your body something that it can work with, you create momentum that feels supportive rather than scary. And from that place, that's where the quantum leaps not just become possible, but they also become sustainable.

Speaker 1: 14:03

Because you can receive maybe and I want you to think about it, because I know so many people who've received like a massive influx of wealth through like a one-time payment and something like that, and it goes away very quickly because they can't hold it. Not that they're bad with money, but subconsciously that is not safe. And I know it sounds crazy to say having wealth and financial abundance doesn't feel safe because you want it, so you can feel safe and secure and less stressed out. But remember familiarity, your subconscious mind, it's just not programmed that way. We have to reprogram it to hold that, because it's just looking for familiar. Your subconscious does not care about your happiness, it does not care about your abundance. I say this all the time. It doesn't care, it cares about what is familiar. So being broke is familiar. That feels safe. It is a pattern. You may not like it, you may think it sucks, but your subconscious mind is going to say well, that's what I know. So I'm going to move to that and that's why we have to build capacity to hold.

Speaker 1: 15:08

I'm having a Harvest your Desires gathering in September and I'll link the information in the show notes. But I'm going to walk through this. It's an intentionally intimate gathering of women and I'm going to walk through, not downplaying your desires. How to definitely have that big desire because, like I said, that big desire is meant for you. If you have it, you're going to get it but how to bridge that gap, using possibilities so that the desire doesn't stay in wishful thinking as a way to anchor into safe expansion. And how to regulate through resistance. And how to take aligned risks without flipping into that fight, flight or freeze.

Speaker 1: 15:48

And so I want to break this down just a little bit more for you before we end the show today, so that you can begin to embody the identity of a risk taker without shocking your system. So start with micro risk. A risk doesn't have to be a huge, powerful thing. A risk can just be revving up your nervous system so you can build it brick by brick. So for me, once again receiving a parking spot you know when I'm driving my car, when I'm the passenger it was a micro risk and it was an exercise in trust and belief that it was safe to receive, without excusing that everybody else was more worthy of a parking space than me.

Speaker 1: 16:33

Something that's micro, but I also feel like it has to be micro. But you can't do it on your own, if that makes sense, because if you could manifest everything you wanted on your own, exactly how you are right now, you'd already have it. So if you, you know, think about something where a lot of people is letting go of the how with manifestation, because then we try to, you know, do about something where a lot of people is letting go of the how with manifestation, because then we try to, you know, do it within our own power, instead of just getting on the frequency of the desire and letting our three E rearrange around us. So maybe something that lets you release the how a little bit that you can't figure it out, but is also just a micro shift to slowly anchor you. Or maybe it is just I'm going to get an unexpected gift, maybe your abundance micro shift is, you know, an unexpected gift is going to come to me, whatever that means.

Speaker 1: 17:20

But just start with a micro risk that takes you a little bit beyond where you are now and then you can use somatic anchors. So do some grounding, like deep breathing, shaking out tension, pressing your feet to the floor, sending a signal of safety to your body, to your physical body, before taking a risk, before embodying that next level self, and then stretch with structure. So instead of like I'm quitting my job tomorrow, you can be like I'm gonna build a bridge plan where I'm showing up for my business consistently and the desire is still alive but it's digestible. Or maybe, if you're looking for that soulmate love, maybe it's just building up your friendships, being safe to be authentic and seen and heard in a friendship. Before you enter into, you know, your soulmate relationship.

Speaker 1: 18:12

Celebrate this sensation and not just the outcome. So every time you feel like this little flutter of fear and doing the thing anyway, then celebrate it because that's your nervous system expanding, that's you becoming somebody who can hold more. When you say you know I honor, you know that fear. One of the things I talked about in the Courage Over Fear podcast is you can thank your fear, like thank you for trying to keep me safe, but it is okay, like I know it is unknown, but this unknown is safe and I'm going to teach you that it is safe. And, talking to your body and your nervous system, I'm going to teach you that it is safe and we are going to do this and it is safe. But protecting me. I appreciate you trying to protect me, celebrating that you're becoming someone who could hold me back and then rehearse, receiving like literally, practice, feeling into what it would be like to hold what you're calling in so that it can feel familiar Because, remember, our nervous system, our subconscious, likes the familiar.

Speaker 1: 19:08

So let it feel normal, because the more your body feels at home in your vision, the more easily it can arrive. And we're going to be doing that in the Harvest, your Desires gathering as well. So we're going to bridge it and we're going to do all of these things, but then we're actually going to come away with the best tool I've ever used, which is a vision diary not to be mistaken with a vision board but it's a living, breathing tool that we bring the feelings into, living breathing tool that we bring the feelings into. So here's what I want you to know as we wrap up today is that you don't have to shock yourself into alignment, you don't have to leap before you're ready and you don't have to bulldoze your fear to become a risk taker, because you can expand gently and powerfully and safely. Being a risk taker is less about doing something wild and more about someone who can hold more love, money, joy and freedom without collapsing under the weight of it. It's just building your capacity bit by bit, breath by breath, and before you know it, you will be the person who's quantum leaping, because you built your way into that, because you have built that capacity. So choose one desire that's been scaring you, scale it down to a version that stretches you but doesn't send you into shutdown. Hold that version of your body, breathe into it, speak it aloud and let it become your new baseline, because that's your new baseline. And then you continue to expand to that bigger, bolder desire, and that's how we build a life that's both magical and manageable.

Speaker 1: 20:38

Once again, I'm going to show you how to go deep into this process. If you're in the DFW area, in the Harvest, your Desires gathering there are limited spots, so you're going to want to get them now. We're not going to just talk about manifesting. We're going to be recoding our nervous system to receive it. If you're not in the DFW area, find one of my freebies that I have on my website or in the show notes to get on my list, because this will be coming to you in another way, but I'm going to do it in person first. You are on the edge of more. This is your time. You can manifest, and we're going to do it in a way that is not superficial, so that you can walk forward in safety in your bones, in power in your hand. I'll chat with you next week.